Comments on: Minimizing Your Chances Lost http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/ Lessons in Dismantling the Status Quo Sat, 24 Jul 2010 06:06:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: jdbentley http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-179 jdbentley Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:45:55 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-179 <p>Nothing wrong with being a stoic. That's what I was trying to get at! Not romanticizing a dream to the point it could never live up to your expectations. After all I think that's what kept me from doing it, that I had planned every move and every single event that would happen and that if I did go to the club and it didn't happen in that exact way, I would be more than likely disappointed. I was afraid of breaking this romanticized ideal so I never did it. I'd much rather have been bored and done it than to have never gotten the chance though.</p> Nothing wrong with being a stoic. That's what I was trying to get at! Not romanticizing a dream to the point it could never live up to your expectations. After all I think that's what kept me from doing it, that I had planned every move and every single event that would happen and that if I did go to the club and it didn't happen in that exact way, I would be more than likely disappointed. I was afraid of breaking this romanticized ideal so I never did it. I'd much rather have been bored and done it than to have never gotten the chance though.

]]> By: Rasheed Hooda http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-178 Rasheed Hooda Tue, 18 Aug 2009 06:55:49 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-178 <p>Great job, Dave!</p> <p>You are absolutely right. The first step to any change, specially meaningful change is making the decision. Most people never make the decision. They stay stuck in <em>I'd love to / wish I could</em> land.</p> <p>Congratulations on your decision and move to Aussie. I would love to talk to some more about what you do and your trip down under.</p> <p>Rasheed</p> Great job, Dave!

You are absolutely right. The first step to any change, specially meaningful change is making the decision. Most people never make the decision. They stay stuck in I'd love to / wish I could land.

Congratulations on your decision and move to Aussie. I would love to talk to some more about what you do and your trip down under.

Rasheed

]]> By: Colin Wright http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-177 Colin Wright Tue, 18 Aug 2009 06:13:41 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-177 <p>Like everyone else who has commented so far, I got a lot out of this post, J.D.</p> <p>I wanted to add, too, that I find the best way to avoid the paralysis that comes from having a dream that seems like it could never be reality is to not romanticize a situation too much. I've had dreams like the one that you described that have turned out to be incredibly boring in real life, only to have a pit stop on the way home turn out to be a wonderful adventure.</p> <p>I've come to live for these small, unexpected dreamlike situations a whole lot more than anything I could plan. And you know what? The best way to come across them is to just take advantage of situations that present themselves, do things you think might be fun and not be too disappointed if they don't turn out exactly the way you thought they would.</p> <p>Sounds mighty stoic of me, I know, but then I guess I'm kind of a stoic :)</p> Like everyone else who has commented so far, I got a lot out of this post, J.D.

I wanted to add, too, that I find the best way to avoid the paralysis that comes from having a dream that seems like it could never be reality is to not romanticize a situation too much. I've had dreams like the one that you described that have turned out to be incredibly boring in real life, only to have a pit stop on the way home turn out to be a wonderful adventure.

I've come to live for these small, unexpected dreamlike situations a whole lot more than anything I could plan. And you know what? The best way to come across them is to just take advantage of situations that present themselves, do things you think might be fun and not be too disappointed if they don't turn out exactly the way you thought they would.

Sounds mighty stoic of me, I know, but then I guess I'm kind of a stoic :)

]]> By: Dave http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-176 Dave Tue, 18 Aug 2009 00:47:13 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-176 <p>This is a great post! I had this same feeling once. I worked in a cube 8-4 monday through friday. I would search the internet and joke with everyone everyday. I am was still productive at my job but, like you, had plenty of daydream time. I had gone to Aussie in 2005 and always wanted to try and move there. So finally I decided in 2008 that I was going to do it. I set myself up financially over 6 months and when i told my boss and coworkers they thought I was crazy. I knew that leaving a stable job in March 2009 wasn't the best career move but the greatest life move. Wouldn't give this opportunity back if I had the opportunity too. I ended up only staying in Aussie for 3 months but I tried it and will never regret. I hope everyone does as I do and take the leap of faith towards life.</p> <p>GREAT POST AGAIN!</p> <p>Dave<br /> LifeExcursion</p> This is a great post! I had this same feeling once. I worked in a cube 8-4 monday through friday. I would search the internet and joke with everyone everyday. I am was still productive at my job but, like you, had plenty of daydream time. I had gone to Aussie in 2005 and always wanted to try and move there. So finally I decided in 2008 that I was going to do it. I set myself up financially over 6 months and when i told my boss and coworkers they thought I was crazy. I knew that leaving a stable job in March 2009 wasn't the best career move but the greatest life move. Wouldn't give this opportunity back if I had the opportunity too. I ended up only staying in Aussie for 3 months but I tried it and will never regret. I hope everyone does as I do and take the leap of faith towards life.

GREAT POST AGAIN!

Dave
LifeExcursion

]]> By: Rasheed Hooda http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-175 Rasheed Hooda Mon, 17 Aug 2009 21:13:52 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-175 <p>You're welcome, my friend. I posted 13 of my favorite quotes on my blog last week. This one is the first one.</p> You're welcome, my friend. I posted 13 of my favorite quotes on my blog last week. This one is the first one.

]]> By: jdbentley http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-174 jdbentley Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:57:07 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-174 <p>I love that quote. More people need to see that quote and it's actually pretty inspiring for me. I'm just now experimenting with building a business (as opposed to freelancing) and it's quite tough to find the right ideas and right products and to market them in the right way. It's all trial and error, but it's great to know that even if something difficult seems impossible, the very existence of the desire means you can do it. Thanks, Rasheed!</p> I love that quote. More people need to see that quote and it's actually pretty inspiring for me. I'm just now experimenting with building a business (as opposed to freelancing) and it's quite tough to find the right ideas and right products and to market them in the right way. It's all trial and error, but it's great to know that even if something difficult seems impossible, the very existence of the desire means you can do it. Thanks, Rasheed!

]]> By: jdbentley http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-173 jdbentley Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:55:11 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-173 <p>Exactly! I've found that it's much better to maintain a loose outline of what you want to do and save the detailed planning for the immediate future. No one knows what awesome opportunities might come up and if you are too focused on a particular outcome you could miss them.</p> Exactly! I've found that it's much better to maintain a loose outline of what you want to do and save the detailed planning for the immediate future. No one knows what awesome opportunities might come up and if you are too focused on a particular outcome you could miss them.

]]> By: jdbentley http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-172 jdbentley Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:53:29 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-172 <p>I've known the motorcycle and sports car types. In my experience, they live pretty pathetic lives. I get what you are saying about aiming higher and higher and that's not really what I was disagreeing with. I was disagreeing with the idea that truly essential dreams be put on an untouchable shelf so a person can maintain the motivation they need to sustain their mediocrity. Having kids and a well-established business could have been this essential dream for the 45 year old. What I'm against is this 45 year old never making the jump to entrepreneurship.</p> <p>I know it wasn't a very articulate response but I'm not saying people need to abandon responsibilities to do what they want to do. Just that they shouldn't use the "it's just a crazy dream" excuse to avoid doing things that are very possible.</p> I've known the motorcycle and sports car types. In my experience, they live pretty pathetic lives. I get what you are saying about aiming higher and higher and that's not really what I was disagreeing with. I was disagreeing with the idea that truly essential dreams be put on an untouchable shelf so a person can maintain the motivation they need to sustain their mediocrity. Having kids and a well-established business could have been this essential dream for the 45 year old. What I'm against is this 45 year old never making the jump to entrepreneurship.

I know it wasn't a very articulate response but I'm not saying people need to abandon responsibilities to do what they want to do. Just that they shouldn't use the "it's just a crazy dream" excuse to avoid doing things that are very possible.

]]> By: Rasheed Hooda http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Rasheed Hooda Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:26:36 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-171 <p>"I’ve always felt like this kind of idea was absolute bullshit. That’s because it is."</p> <p>I agree with you totally, JD. As Wallace Wattles puts it, "A desire to do (a thing) is proof that you have within you the power which can do it."</p> <p>Great post. I recently learned a few lessons on my road trip, but the ones I learned since returning are more powerful and I am writing a post about one of them today. Life is a series of lessons learned, to the say the least.</p> "I’ve always felt like this kind of idea was absolute bullshit. That’s because it is."

I agree with you totally, JD. As Wallace Wattles puts it, "A desire to do (a thing) is proof that you have within you the power which can do it."

Great post. I recently learned a few lessons on my road trip, but the ones I learned since returning are more powerful and I am writing a post about one of them today. Life is a series of lessons learned, to the say the least.

]]> By: @cathduncan http://wageslaverebel.com/minimizing-your-chances-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-170 @cathduncan Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:10:25 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=282#comment-170 <p>Very powerful! I particularly like this: "Your goal should not be to have perfectly planned experiences. Thats absolute nonsense. Your goal should be a path of peculiarity and a beautifully crafted living narratives." I think that, while holding a specific goal in mind can be very motivating, sometimes it can cause us to be a bit limited in our thinking and a bit controlling, cutting off the possibilities as we try to eliminate uncertainty or disappointment.</p> Very powerful! I particularly like this: "Your goal should not be to have perfectly planned experiences. Thats absolute nonsense. Your goal should be a path of peculiarity and a beautifully crafted living narratives." I think that, while holding a specific goal in mind can be very motivating, sometimes it can cause us to be a bit limited in our thinking and a bit controlling, cutting off the possibilities as we try to eliminate uncertainty or disappointment.

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