Comments on: On Networking http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/ Lessons in Dismantling the Status Quo Wed, 29 Jun 2011 00:13:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Joel http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/comment-page-1/#comment-2855 Joel Sat, 24 Jul 2010 06:06:08 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=1162#comment-2855 <p>Dude, have you ever been to a BNI group or something similar? It's scary what some people think "networking" means...</p> Dude, have you ever been to a BNI group or something similar? It’s scary what some people think “networking” means…

]]> By: Nate http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/comment-page-1/#comment-2854 Nate Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:37:25 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=1162#comment-2854 <p>JD - Glad to meet a fellow introvert! I too am a bit turned off by networking as you describe it above. A few months back I remember chatting with a blogger on the lifestyle design circuit (not giving much away since it seems there's an infinite supply of these lately) about some random stuff. I thought I was having a nice conversation and we were talking about some technical stuff and then some business stuff. At the end of the conversation this blogger said 'hey, since I helped you out would you mind writing a recommendation for me?'</p> <p>You know..kind of one of those shout outs they can throw on their blog. I happily obliged. Seriously...I was it's b/c I love to help people out, but there was still a part of me that was thinking 'does this person really like me? Were they just talking to me so they could get something from me after giving me some info?' I don't know, it kind of left a bad taste in my mouth.</p> <p>I think the key is to develop authentic relationships...and honestly, I think that takes time. I'd rather have a small group of close friends that I trust, admire and respect rather than a zillion 'friends' that are used as a means to an ends. Now, before I end, I don't want to say people cannot have a lot of friends AND have a lot of meaningful relationships with them. That's just not how I operate, so I can definitely relate to what you're saying in this post.</p> JD – Glad to meet a fellow introvert! I too am a bit turned off by networking as you describe it above. A few months back I remember chatting with a blogger on the lifestyle design circuit (not giving much away since it seems there’s an infinite supply of these lately) about some random stuff. I thought I was having a nice conversation and we were talking about some technical stuff and then some business stuff. At the end of the conversation this blogger said ‘hey, since I helped you out would you mind writing a recommendation for me?’

You know..kind of one of those shout outs they can throw on their blog. I happily obliged. Seriously…I was it’s b/c I love to help people out, but there was still a part of me that was thinking ‘does this person really like me? Were they just talking to me so they could get something from me after giving me some info?’ I don’t know, it kind of left a bad taste in my mouth.

I think the key is to develop authentic relationships…and honestly, I think that takes time. I’d rather have a small group of close friends that I trust, admire and respect rather than a zillion ‘friends’ that are used as a means to an ends. Now, before I end, I don’t want to say people cannot have a lot of friends AND have a lot of meaningful relationships with them. That’s just not how I operate, so I can definitely relate to what you’re saying in this post.

]]> By: Janet http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/comment-page-1/#comment-2853 Janet Mon, 19 Jul 2010 05:24:15 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=1162#comment-2853 <p>I guess that's what bothers me about "networking" too. Its always seemed so fake to me and being a fellow introvert, I don't do well with acquaintance relationships. I need something more. Networking to me usually seems like a way for people to feed their own egos.</p> I guess that’s what bothers me about “networking” too. Its always seemed so fake to me and being a fellow introvert, I don’t do well with acquaintance relationships. I need something more. Networking to me usually seems like a way for people to feed their own egos.

]]> By: ChaoticMark http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/comment-page-1/#comment-2852 ChaoticMark Sun, 18 Jul 2010 23:16:19 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=1162#comment-2852 <p>networking is great... for building a rolodex full of single-serving friends.</p> <p>to get a better grasp on what "friend" means in today's "connected" culture, here's a question recently posed on twitter...</p> <p><em>Am I the only one fascinated by how the word "friend" has morphed into an amorphous, ambiguous + nearly empty word thanks to social media?</em></p> networking is great… for building a rolodex full of single-serving friends.

to get a better grasp on what “friend” means in today’s “connected” culture, here’s a question recently posed on twitter…

Am I the only one fascinated by how the word “friend” has morphed into an amorphous, ambiguous + nearly empty word thanks to social media?

]]> By: Karen http://wageslaverebel.com/on-networking/comment-page-1/#comment-2849 Karen Tue, 13 Jul 2010 05:41:17 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=1162#comment-2849 <p>Hi JD, I'm normally a quiet follower of your blog, but I have to say this post resonated with me. Several years ago I dropped out of the purposeful networking game and now that all my contacts are organic, life is certainly much more stress-free, at least in the networking area. I hope it works out as well for you too.</p> <p>p.s. I want nothing from you other than to continue reading your blog. :></p> Hi JD, I’m normally a quiet follower of your blog, but I have to say this post resonated with me. Several years ago I dropped out of the purposeful networking game and now that all my contacts are organic, life is certainly much more stress-free, at least in the networking area. I hope it works out as well for you too.

p.s. I want nothing from you other than to continue reading your blog. :>

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