Comments on: The Courage and Confidence to Quit http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/ Lessons in Dismantling the Status Quo Sat, 24 Jul 2010 06:06:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Randall http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1676 Randall Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:02:03 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1676 <p>My brother worked at a hopital with a similar job. He always said it sucked! I do have a better image of starbucks now. I do wish I could quit my job everday and am working on it. With three kids in college it's tough to do. If you twenty somethings, my advise is to live your dream now and don't get caught up in too many obligations for now and go for it. Once you get tied down it is not impossible, but it makes it harder. .-= Randall´s last blog ..<a href="http://homsic4ph.wordpress.com/2010/03/10/why-cant-we-just-all-get-along/" rel="nofollow">Why Can’t We Just All Get Along?</a> =-.</p> My brother worked at a hopital with a similar job. He always said it sucked! I do have a better image of starbucks now. I do wish I could quit my job everday and am working on it. With three kids in college it’s tough to do. If you twenty somethings, my advise is to live your dream now and don’t get caught up in too many obligations for now and go for it. Once you get tied down it is not impossible, but it makes it harder. .-= Randall´s last blog ..Why Can’t We Just All Get Along? =-.

]]> By: Christina http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1326 Christina Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:39:35 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1326 <p>You know, I never really realized it until now, but I have had that same experience in relationships. I dated a guy when I was a teenager, and while he was very sweet to me, there was a lot wrong with that relationship and it was more than I could handle at the time. However, I stayed with him much longer than I should have, because I had developed this idea that "love" meant never doing anything to hurt the other person's feelings, even if you are very unhappy. If I broke up with him, it meant I was shallow and heartless, and that the whole thing had been "frivolous." I was so concerned with trying to prove to everyone else how serious and grown-up I was, I just ignored how miserable I was.</p> <p>I have never felt that way about a job, though. But I am pathologically nice to awful bosses when I tell them I'm quitting. Interesting!</p> You know, I never really realized it until now, but I have had that same experience in relationships. I dated a guy when I was a teenager, and while he was very sweet to me, there was a lot wrong with that relationship and it was more than I could handle at the time. However, I stayed with him much longer than I should have, because I had developed this idea that “love” meant never doing anything to hurt the other person’s feelings, even if you are very unhappy. If I broke up with him, it meant I was shallow and heartless, and that the whole thing had been “frivolous.” I was so concerned with trying to prove to everyone else how serious and grown-up I was, I just ignored how miserable I was.

I have never felt that way about a job, though. But I am pathologically nice to awful bosses when I tell them I’m quitting. Interesting!

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1313 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:36:18 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1313 <p>I'm not ashamed of the journey. It helped me switch perspectives from basing my life on what I don't want to do to basing my life on what I do want to do. Most people have a very clear idea of what they don't want to do, but come up empty when you ask them what they'd like to do. This is an important transition if you want to be successful, I think.</p> I’m not ashamed of the journey. It helped me switch perspectives from basing my life on what I don’t want to do to basing my life on what I do want to do. Most people have a very clear idea of what they don’t want to do, but come up empty when you ask them what they’d like to do. This is an important transition if you want to be successful, I think.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1312 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:34:53 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1312 <p>For me, quitting the hospital job to a major period of absolute misery. The motives I had had for starting the hospital job seemed to be slipping away and as they did I just had to ask "So why the hell am I still here?"</p> <p>At the end it proved too much to be working for an opportunity that had seemingly disappeared and I quit. But if you want to quit, you should do everything you can to quit. Usually, the things that people are scared of aren't all that scary.</p> For me, quitting the hospital job to a major period of absolute misery. The motives I had had for starting the hospital job seemed to be slipping away and as they did I just had to ask “So why the hell am I still here?”

At the end it proved too much to be working for an opportunity that had seemingly disappeared and I quit. But if you want to quit, you should do everything you can to quit. Usually, the things that people are scared of aren’t all that scary.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1311 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:32:45 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1311 <p>I don't regret anything. You're right. It all got me on what I feel to be the right path, so there's not much I can say against it. And while 90% of the job was awful, there was a very valuable 10% that helped open me up to people and get more social. Before that I had been incredibly shy, so it wasn't all bad.</p> I don’t regret anything. You’re right. It all got me on what I feel to be the right path, so there’s not much I can say against it. And while 90% of the job was awful, there was a very valuable 10% that helped open me up to people and get more social. Before that I had been incredibly shy, so it wasn’t all bad.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1310 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:31:13 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1310 <p>I like your history teacher's advice! That's very true. While I was at the hospital, everyone told me to just hang in there for six months and then I could bid on jobs in other departments. And while it would have definitely been a promotion, I'd still be in the hospital. It just wasn't for me at all.</p> I like your history teacher’s advice! That’s very true. While I was at the hospital, everyone told me to just hang in there for six months and then I could bid on jobs in other departments. And while it would have definitely been a promotion, I’d still be in the hospital. It just wasn’t for me at all.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1309 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:29:19 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1309 <p>I wasn't contracted. My problem was that friends and family had helped me cultivate this mindset that "discipline" was sticking to something you hate. If I didn't keep doing what I hated, I was a failure. That's why I felt obligated to stay as long as I did. I could have quit any time but it didn't feel that way.</p> I wasn’t contracted. My problem was that friends and family had helped me cultivate this mindset that “discipline” was sticking to something you hate. If I didn’t keep doing what I hated, I was a failure. That’s why I felt obligated to stay as long as I did. I could have quit any time but it didn’t feel that way.

]]> By: Dena http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1289 Dena Mon, 15 Feb 2010 23:11:16 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1289 <p>Great story... I am glad that you finally told the story of the "other" job. I can't imagine what it must feel like to get fired. What a sinking feeling you must have had in your stomach! I am sorry that you had to go through that. But. As I am sure you've realized by now, all of those tribulations were necessary to get you where you are today. You have so much to be proud of & it's wonderful that you are able to share your journey this way. .-= Dena´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/evolutionyou/~3/i8fCFAfQe3A/" rel="nofollow">Carousel — 02.12.10</a> =-.</p> Great story… I am glad that you finally told the story of the “other” job. I can’t imagine what it must feel like to get fired. What a sinking feeling you must have had in your stomach! I am sorry that you had to go through that. But. As I am sure you’ve realized by now, all of those tribulations were necessary to get you where you are today. You have so much to be proud of & it’s wonderful that you are able to share your journey this way. .-= Dena´s last blog ..Carousel — 02.12.10 =-.

]]> By: Adrienne http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1251 Adrienne Sat, 13 Feb 2010 07:56:44 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1251 <p>"the courage to risk everything for happiness" - love it!</p> <p>I struggle every day with having the courage and confidence to just walk out of the job I dread. I know it is a struggle for a lot of people... to believe that if they leave their miserable job - that they can make it on their own. .-= Adrienne´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheDailyCubicle/~3/Tl9pT0GOxCw/" rel="nofollow">Tales from the Cube: Porn and Beer</a> =-.</p> “the courage to risk everything for happiness” – love it!

I struggle every day with having the courage and confidence to just walk out of the job I dread. I know it is a struggle for a lot of people… to believe that if they leave their miserable job – that they can make it on their own. .-= Adrienne´s last blog ..Tales from the Cube: Porn and Beer =-.

]]> By: Heather Villa http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1243 Heather Villa Fri, 12 Feb 2010 10:41:46 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1243 <p>Everything happens for a purpose. If you had quit the hospital job, then you might not be at this place in your life today. Maybe the enjoyment you got from being a Barista is what eventually gave you the courage to decide there is more to life than working an unfulfilling job. Who knows. HInd sight is 20/20.</p> <p>Our choices and decisions are the path that lead us to where we are today. It sounds to me that your end destination is exactly where you want to be. :) .-= Heather Villa´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/HeatherVilla-ImplementationSpecialist/~3/ELRD1PG5k_U/" rel="nofollow">Does Your Newsletter Suck? 10 Reasons Why It Might</a> =-.</p> Everything happens for a purpose. If you had quit the hospital job, then you might not be at this place in your life today. Maybe the enjoyment you got from being a Barista is what eventually gave you the courage to decide there is more to life than working an unfulfilling job. Who knows. HInd sight is 20/20.

Our choices and decisions are the path that lead us to where we are today. It sounds to me that your end destination is exactly where you want to be. :) .-= Heather Villa´s last blog ..Does Your Newsletter Suck? 10 Reasons Why It Might =-.

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