Comments on: The Courage and Confidence to Quit http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/ Lessons in Dismantling the Status Quo Wed, 29 Jun 2011 00:13:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Randall http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1676 Randall Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:02:03 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1676 <p>My brother worked at a hopital with a similar job. He always said it sucked! I do have a better image of starbucks now. I do wish I could quit my job everday and am working on it. With three kids in college it's tough to do. If you twenty somethings, my advise is to live your dream now and don't get caught up in too many obligations for now and go for it. Once you get tied down it is not impossible, but it makes it harder. .-= Randall´s last blog ..<a href="http://homsic4ph.wordpress.com/2010/03/10/why-cant-we-just-all-get-along/" rel="nofollow">Why Can’t We Just All Get Along?</a> =-.</p> My brother worked at a hopital with a similar job. He always said it sucked! I do have a better image of starbucks now. I do wish I could quit my job everday and am working on it. With three kids in college it’s tough to do. If you twenty somethings, my advise is to live your dream now and don’t get caught up in too many obligations for now and go for it. Once you get tied down it is not impossible, but it makes it harder. .-= Randall´s last blog ..Why Can’t We Just All Get Along? =-.

]]> By: Christina http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1326 Christina Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:39:35 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1326 <p>You know, I never really realized it until now, but I have had that same experience in relationships. I dated a guy when I was a teenager, and while he was very sweet to me, there was a lot wrong with that relationship and it was more than I could handle at the time. However, I stayed with him much longer than I should have, because I had developed this idea that "love" meant never doing anything to hurt the other person's feelings, even if you are very unhappy. If I broke up with him, it meant I was shallow and heartless, and that the whole thing had been "frivolous." I was so concerned with trying to prove to everyone else how serious and grown-up I was, I just ignored how miserable I was.</p> <p>I have never felt that way about a job, though. But I am pathologically nice to awful bosses when I tell them I'm quitting. Interesting!</p> You know, I never really realized it until now, but I have had that same experience in relationships. I dated a guy when I was a teenager, and while he was very sweet to me, there was a lot wrong with that relationship and it was more than I could handle at the time. However, I stayed with him much longer than I should have, because I had developed this idea that “love” meant never doing anything to hurt the other person’s feelings, even if you are very unhappy. If I broke up with him, it meant I was shallow and heartless, and that the whole thing had been “frivolous.” I was so concerned with trying to prove to everyone else how serious and grown-up I was, I just ignored how miserable I was.

I have never felt that way about a job, though. But I am pathologically nice to awful bosses when I tell them I’m quitting. Interesting!

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1313 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:36:18 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1313 <p>I'm not ashamed of the journey. It helped me switch perspectives from basing my life on what I don't want to do to basing my life on what I do want to do. Most people have a very clear idea of what they don't want to do, but come up empty when you ask them what they'd like to do. This is an important transition if you want to be successful, I think.</p> I’m not ashamed of the journey. It helped me switch perspectives from basing my life on what I don’t want to do to basing my life on what I do want to do. Most people have a very clear idea of what they don’t want to do, but come up empty when you ask them what they’d like to do. This is an important transition if you want to be successful, I think.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1312 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:34:53 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1312 <p>For me, quitting the hospital job to a major period of absolute misery. The motives I had had for starting the hospital job seemed to be slipping away and as they did I just had to ask "So why the hell am I still here?"</p> <p>At the end it proved too much to be working for an opportunity that had seemingly disappeared and I quit. But if you want to quit, you should do everything you can to quit. Usually, the things that people are scared of aren't all that scary.</p> For me, quitting the hospital job to a major period of absolute misery. The motives I had had for starting the hospital job seemed to be slipping away and as they did I just had to ask “So why the hell am I still here?”

At the end it proved too much to be working for an opportunity that had seemingly disappeared and I quit. But if you want to quit, you should do everything you can to quit. Usually, the things that people are scared of aren’t all that scary.

]]> By: J. D. Bentley http://wageslaverebel.com/the-courage-and-confidence-to-quit/comment-page-1/#comment-1311 J. D. Bentley Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:32:45 +0000 http://wageslaverebel.com/?p=733#comment-1311 <p>I don't regret anything. You're right. It all got me on what I feel to be the right path, so there's not much I can say against it. And while 90% of the job was awful, there was a very valuable 10% that helped open me up to people and get more social. Before that I had been incredibly shy, so it wasn't all bad.</p> I don’t regret anything. You’re right. It all got me on what I feel to be the right path, so there’s not much I can say against it. And while 90% of the job was awful, there was a very valuable 10% that helped open me up to people and get more social. Before that I had been incredibly shy, so it wasn’t all bad.

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